He's Not Asking Me Out! Is he into me? Ask a Legend
I met this great guy the other day outside a coffee shop that I study at a lot. We had a talk and he seemed great. He is cute and seems like he has his act together. I think I made a good impression and we hit it off. We exchanged numbers but he hasn't call me yet, it has been about 2 weeks now. Maybe he is talking it slow, or he is busy work or perhaps out of town. What do you think Mr Legend? Is he into me?
Firstly I recommend reading 10 signs a guy is definitely NOT into you. It will be good reading for you on the topic. Now to address your question:
Assuming he is not dead, in which case he may very well have been really into you and just about to call you before he got mauled by bear then eaten by a Bengal Tiger that escaped the Zoo. Before I go into this long diatribe about how he is NOT into you, let us go over a few things. Firstly, if you find yourself making excuses for a guy not calling you then you are probably just trying to convince yourself of something contrary to what you know in your heart is true. Secondly, if a guy likes a girl there are very few obstacles that will stand in his way; even a shy guy. The obstacle mentioned above is a good example, if he is dead, it will be significantly more difficult for him to contact you. If a guy likes you, he'll find you; he'll find a way. I've hit up random namesakes, and sent messages of Facebook just to find women I was interested in. Now this gentleman actually has your number.
In truth, there is nothing that can keep a guy from contacting a woman if he likes her. It doesn't take long neither does it require effort. He can't be too busy! Unless his is imprisoned as a POW in Iraq, he has time to call, he just doesn't feel compelled to.
There are many excuses out there like:
I'm too busy....
I wanna take it slow....
I don't wanna ruin our friendship....
I am just not ready for anything right now...
I need to concentrate on my career etc etc...
These excuses will sound very familiar to a women because she has probably used 1 of these put down a guy easy that she simply didn't like. The only time guys use this kind of language is when they want to communicate to girl, in her own language, that it's not happening. I have never met a guy who wasn't willing to risk a friendship to be with a girl he really liked or who wanted to take it slow? So take it from me, unless he is dead, or has been involved in some natural disaster of some sort e.g a hurricane, a tornado or he was struck by a meteorite then he would have tried to contact you.
So the answer is a big fat, obese NO! This chump is probably isn't into you! don't waste your time waiting for him to call, get on with your life. You can call him but you risk upsetting a very delicate courting ritual and for some reason that tends to make women seem desperate in many cases. If he approached you he should call you. Just move on. If he calls, he calls but I doubt it. It's easy to feel like you'll never never meet another person that rocks your boat but how many times has that philosophy proven wrong?
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